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American Wedding (2003)
IMDB rating: 6.20
Plot: The group of best friends from their days back at East Great Falls High reunite for the next great sexual adventure in their lives… a wedding with Stifler orchestrating the correlating social event… the bachelor party.
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Directors: Dylan Jesse
Actors: Biggs Jason,Nicholas Thomas Ian,Thomas Eddie Kaye,Scott Seann William,Levy Eugene,Willard Fred,Kramer Eric Allan,Pressman Lawrence,Comedy,Romance,
Any hope for me in finding lasting love?
I’m 45, single divorced full time father of one child. I have a good professional job and outwardly optimistic, funny, and upbeat but I am dying on the inside. I have never really had a relationship with a woman who truly loved me.
Yes, I was married once but I was anxious to get married and married for the wrong reasons to a woman I met overseas via the internet. It was a foolish thing to do and I soon found she had mental health problems and wouldn’t agree to help I tried to get for her. She asked for a divorce and one year later it was official. It was a difficult marriage and, as soon as it was over, I wanted so much to find true love.
Since I do suffer from self-esteem issues (I’m short and overweight), I found again that women overseas were the only ones that showed real "interest" in me and I again foolishly fell for yet another woman. I knew her online for a year before finally visiting her, then another year before visiting again and proposing (she did seem to care about me and I did feel that I was in love with her). She accepted and another year passed as we planned the wedding in her hometown that was going to be beautiful. Then, three days before I was to go there, she pulled the rug out and said that she didn’t really want to get married and had only been marrying me because her family and friends wanted her to marry the nice American man and have a good life. Well, I’m glad she told the truth. But I was devastated. My child had been so looking to her as a stepmother. Now my child has been abandoned twice. First by the mother and now by my ex-fiancee.
I have stopped myself from looking at women abroad but women locally show scant interest in me. I’m below average height and overweight (this seems to be genetically my body type as I can’t work/diet it off, folks). I know a lot of women are turned off to the idea of dating a guy who has a kid already — even some single mothers too – especially when it’s a full time father as it means something must be wrong with the mother. And they’re concerned about "Baby Mama Drama" which, in my case, is true as my child’s mother is still around, visiting weekly, and wants a lot of things done that I don’t agree with. Add to this that my elderly mother now must, because of financial reasons, live with me. I am happy to have her but realize that it too will be a barrier as few women want a man who must take care of his elderly mother.
I have tried numerous dating websites and have put up a good profile with good pictures. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t come across as a loser through my profile as I have spent a lot of time and thought on it. Just as I have tried with what I’ve written here.
Yet, I feel deep down, that I’m chasing after the wind, for something that is not there and never will be there. I used to believe in God but I don’t really anymore. So I don’t want to try church to meet someone as I’ve tried that and I won’t fit with someone who is overly religious. Instead, I try to focus on raising my child to have a happy life but I can’t wait for mine to be over.
They say the deepest need is to be loved and I do feel that with my child, of course, I don’t have a woman to share life with which is my greatest longing.
I feel as though I’ve lost in the "game" of love and it’s pointless to try anymore.
Can anyone give any words of encouragement? I’m about out of hope.
Love has a way to sneak up on you, no matter what situation, how old, how many children, or people involved. Remember that Shania Twain lyrics "Love has a way to find ya, and there ain’t no particular way…..so don’t give up. You’re gonna get your chance…. there aint no where it won’t hide…..no speed it won’t drive…. no law it won’t break….no chance it won’t take….aint no particular way. "
What’s wrong with dating with kids? Except without the spouse, of course.
What’s wrong with the fact that you’re available again? Isn’t that good?
The right woman will sink into your heart at the right moment in life, sir.
It’s happened before, and it can happen again.
That woman who said she wanted to marry you, but faked out at the last minute, was only a sign that there is a MUCH better woman out there for you. Imagine if she would HAVE married you. Do you think you would have been happy with her?
Much of the world is lost because as people, we have forgotten that we had God with us, as our provider, friend, and deliverer. America is asleep and unaware of these days & what life is really about. Do you really want to be one more person who is asleep in their faith?
God had a plan and a woman for you, way before you were out there in the dating world, and he allows you to go through your unique path in life so that you will find her at the exact moment and place.
Don’t give up : )
Reice Piece | Feb 02, 2010
